Career women under the affectionate shackles of marriage, motherhood as well as a profession, will warm the cockles of her family members by performing the various roles of vivacious wife, lovable mother and poignant worker. To maintain the parity amongst all of these, sometimes it is very painstaking and monotonous. Often they contemplate, what could be the ideal role for mother to her children.
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The following twenty tips are very useful to become an ideal mother.
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1.Quality time with children:
Despite busy schedules, a working woman should extend her quality time to her children. If not on a regular basis, sometimes take them to school, attend parents meetings, sit with them during their studies, give company to their dance classes, painting competition, swimming club etc. Children should be in a position to accept the fact that they are not deprived from the company of their mothers. Also buy gifts for them occasionally for which they will be sentient.
2. Make them self sufficient:
From the very beginning of the school days, teach them to do their work on their own. For example, let them tie the laces of their shoes, wear their clothes on their own, keep the study bag ready and place the lunch box into the bag. As they grow, teach them to do their work by themselves. Self help is the best help and this should be inculcated in their minds.
3. Teach mannerism:
Teach them manners to respect the aged and others. Make them social and watch their behaviour in social gatherings. If they are shy, increase their confidence level so that they mingle with each other, very freely.
4. Be friendly with them:
Mothers and children are closely knitted as far as sharing information is concerned. Share thoughts with them, do gossip about your office colleagues and let them share their experience about their teachers and friends with you. Do not indulge yourself in any other activities while sharing the information with your children, because in that case, they will feel neglected and it will get them detached instead of enjoying your company.
5. Give importance to their opinions:
It has been seen that for any decisions, whether it is strategically very important or trivial, children are not encouraged to take part into the decision making. This is wrong. Rather, they should be tremendously incited to take part in the decision making. From the very beginning of their childhood, if this is being practiced, then they will be at ease to take decision in their adolescent stages itself and subsequently for remaining period of life. Whether it is for purchasing of a school bag or going to the movie, if they are involved in decision making, they will understand their importance and in the process, they will reciprocate the same.
6. Teach them to be confident:
When children fail to achieve a desired performance, try to teach them to take the same in good stride. Whatever may be the situation, how difficult it may be, if one desires, he/she will be definitely successful - this self confidence is to be built up in their mind. Supposedly, if the child failed in the examination, mother is to console, extend support, and tell soothing words, so that he/she overcomes the failure phase. Inform them of the story about Robert Bruce and the spider at equal interval of time so as to make them understand that failure is the pillar of success.
7. Create self respect feeling to them:
Teach them to concentrate on this angle. They are to be explained that they are not inferior to anyone. If someone upbraids them for no good reason or to that matter, if some of friends behave rudely, teach them to protest but not to accept on face value, by bowing their heads. Teach them not to perform any work by which they will be degraded in their own eyes.
8. When needs, you have to be guardian:
As and when required, punish them but not rudely and harshly. Do not utter any unpleasant words which may demoralize them and dishearten them. If they are punished, they should be well aware about the same. In this way, they will be accustomed for why they are punished. As a result, they will definitely avoid the activity for which the punishment is given to them.
9. Listen to them very minutely:
Whenever you are sharing your quality time with them, no matter even it is for a short while, make your all focus on their each and every word with respect to their friends, teachers, what they have done in the school, in the playground etc. Never indulge yourself to listen to them while watching television or when you are in the midst of other works. This way, children will feel that you are not giving any importance to them and they will lose their enthusiasm to share thoughts with you.
10. Share problems with them:
Please share your problems with your children, if you face any unpleasant situation in your working environment. For example, if you get chided by your superiors, colleagues get jealous of your promotion, excessive work pressure on certain occasions, unscheduled tasks bestowed on to you etc, just share with them, not vividly but only narrating the abstracts. This way, they will sympathize with you and you will be an ideal support system for them. When they observe that you share your feelings with them, they will also exchange their thoughts to overcome your loneliness.
11. Praise profusely:
Do not forget to appreciate your children, if they perform well in extracurricular activities such as sports, dance competitions, and quiz competitions, apart from their education. Make them aware that because of their aptitude, they have performed well even if, the matter is insignificant. Praise them in front of outsiders. In this way, children will be encouraged and their confidence level will be zoomed up. But, the very important thing is to be always remembered that excessive praise should not be showered to make them overconfident. You have to be alert to encourage them so that they can maintain their achievement level to the best of the best of their capabilities.
12. Keep healthy relation with spouse:
Do not quarrel or create any scene in front of your children. This may bring a bad precedent. Children are fond of both the parents and they do not like to see the skirmishes. If they find such type of atmosphere in home, they feel themselves unsecured and ultimately become obdurate. If there is any difference in opinions for any matter, settle amicably without the knowledge of children. Healthy and peaceful environment is the most essential factor for their blossom.
13. Teach them to handle frustration:
Children may suffer frustrations for many reasons and during that time, they require mothers affection more than any other things. This affectionate role of mother will make them ease. During the childhood, children may have fights with their friends, they may be scolded by teachers in schools, they may not perform well in examination and all these will lead to evaporate the smile of their faces and here your role will be to know the reasons of their sullen faces, give encouragement and find out the solutions so that they become tough mentally.
14. Express love for children:
"I love you beta", will be the central message to be always chirped to them, even for the pretty issues. Talk to them sweetly; hug them, plant kisses on their forehead and chicks. By the touches of mothers, mental bonding of children increases. Their mistakes should not be glorified, not to be criticized brazenly so that they become hapless. Contrarily, by smiling, patting on their shoulders, mothers must inform them the reason of their mistakes, give solutions and in this way, children will become more self-confident. While extending your affection or love to children, conditions should not be put. It should be unconditional. For example, children should not be told, "if you become first in examination, then I will gift you a cycle." This is normally done but in love expression, there is no place for stipulation. Children will take it, the other way round. It is to be explained to them that they are very dear and pet to their mothers.
15. Develop morality:
From the very childhood, mothers are to ensure the development of sense of the morality. They should be taught not to touch the body of the elders by their legs, show respect to aged, avoid telling lies, not to extend harms to others, do not take things of others without their knowledge. If children commit these mistakes which are against the good morality, explain to them not to do so, of course, with soothing words. Good moralities of the future life will depend how these qualities are built and developed from the early stage of the life.
16. Do not lose patience:
While talking to your children or during the time of sharing any types of communications with them, do not lose your patience. You may have to remember that children are far moody than adults. So, if children are not able to understand your communication in the first instance, do not reprimand them, but repeat the entire process by explaining to them slowly and bring confidence level to them that if they are unable to understand, they are free to enquire from you. This is more important for their education point of view. Until that time, they do not understand any subject; explain to them again and again without losing your patience.
17. Become their support system:
When children become grown up, your responsibilities do not cease. This is a life long process. Once they become adult, you extend your support and co-operation to them. You have to ensure that you are there, whenever they are in great need of you. You have to make sure from their childhood that in any crisis management, you are always with them.
18. Time management for self:
For your own, preserve some time from the jostles and hassles of the daily chores of life. You are in the profession, a mother and top of it, a wife but, after performing all these roles, you must define a time frame even for as low as 30 to 40 minutes on daily basis only for you to get refresh. This time is to be solely utilized for reading any light novels, visiting a beauty parlour for make up, inviting friends for a tea or simply lazing around the house.
You may also invest your this time schedule in creative work. In this way, you will be rejuvenated and equally your children will be inspired to follow your steps.
19. Give them proper and required sex education:
From the childhood, particularly from adolescent stage, give them proper sex education. Do not give any vague replies to their questions because these will make them more prone to unnecessary doubts and your unsatisfied replies will make them more inquisitive gradually. It has been seen that mothers normally avoid answers to their queries about sexual education, make vague replies and simply waffle.
Mothers need to extend the quality sex education to overcome their curiosity.
20. Mothers should be role model:
Children are copy cats. What they see, they learn and so for any of your actions or decisions, please ensure the correct measures from your end. Before preaching, ensure that you are not doing that. For example, if you are a late riser, you cannot tell children the theory of "early to bed, early to rise." If you want to educate them, "to share some things with others", first and foremost, you have to share something with your children so that they can learn from you. If someone visits your home for any help, extend them help through your children. Seeing these, children will follow your steps and consider you as their role model.
Twenty Useful Tips How to Be an Ideal Mother
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